We Are Your Strength

As of today, I have sent you two emails, and I was told that you read them, Alhamdulillah, though you have yet to reply but that is alright. I want you to know that I am thinking of you all the time.

You must remember that you have things to do in life; you have to look forward to your grand-son growing up and knowing that he has a fantastic grandpa. Once you get the energy to be positive I am very sure that you will look your old self again, the hair that might be gone today, will be back tomorrow, don’t be ashamed of your new look, in fact you should be proud of it because this goes to show that you have the might to fight.

Having Big C is not an excuse for quitting; therefore when friends come round or strangers stop by you and asked, "How are you?" just let them know that you are OK.

I want you to know that we all have one thing in common in this world that is called life. We are all fighting to live with or without Big C. It is not just about living healthy and living longer; it is simply about how we live. To each and every one of us, every single day is precious, though there were times that we forget this.

Every once in a while you would want to shed your tears, because living with Big C is scary stuff, don’t be afraid to let the tears flow, it heals your inner being, after all you are just human. Don't even be afraid to show your tears to others as I also don’t want you to be afraid to see the tears of others when they shed it for you. This is very normal.

You will get very tired by the ongoing treatment, go ahead and sleep, in some ways sleep will be a good refuge for you for a while, but don’t turn it into solace. Once you sleep off your tiredness, get up and get going again. Don’t spend too much of alone time with yourself, it is bad.

Please don’t get impatient with people who come to visit you, don’t even get tired of their common questions. You must know that these people only mean well, any suggestion that they put forward to you is their way to show that they want to help. A lot of them like me are naïve with Big C, yet we want to be there all the time to ease your moment, just be understanding ok.

Remember if you don’t have the strength, friends and loved ones will give you that strength that you needed so much to go through your moment with Big C.