Blame it on Midlife Crisis

Received a text message from home, asking me when I will be returning, and also informing me that one of our girlfriends is having a marital problem. This does not come as a surprise to me, as I have seen it coming, nevertheless, it still hurts to know that your friend is being cheated on.

They are not a young couple anyway, and being above 50, most will blame his behavior as the so common Midlife crisis syndrome. How easy can that be? I guess this is the common phenomenon that everyone is happy to be linked to. It is a transition period from the routine comfort of home, career and spouse, where you suddenly feel that you are losing the freshness of challenges. You despise becoming familiar and could not be bothered anymore.

The sudden experience of disharmony is like a hurricane that was unplanned and emergency. But the storm does not start brewing before an affair, it only happens after that, so how do you term this as a crisis and unplanned? If you claim that you were so unhappy, why then wait to find a substitute before realizing it?

The saying that I love you but I am no longer in love with you is so yesterday. This tag line is just like farting, no one believes that anymore, however often you use it, it will only have a moment’s effect, and nothing lingers after a bad fart right?

The transition into midlife often gives us cause to reflect on where our lives have gone and more importantly, where we want them to go. Therefore, many decide to treat their partners as a hump, where they pause before running them down emotionally, and they happily move on.

Why wait till we arrived at the door of midlife to start questioning our happiness, why not before that? Could it be that the shock of seeing your midlife reflection in the mirror too much? I guess when we have all the comfort that we worked so hard for, the meaning of joyfulness thus becomes an assumption. More than often when we assume we will be misguided. To me midlife should be a judgment of clarity in strengthening the foundation of our lives.

So, stop beating around the bush, if you cheat, you cheat ok, and midlife crisis has nothing to do with dishonesty.

Boo on you!!!